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Hey, I'm glad this community exists.

Here's my story. I am a transitioned ftm transsexual, 19, an activist, moderator of transradicals...I was sexually and emotionally abused by my exboyfriend because I'm transsexual. ( Read more...Collapse )

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While reading this community, I noticed that there are many loving and caring people who have been hurt badly in so many different ways. There are many ways that help is available, and I'm hoping that my community can ease some of your demons.

It doesn't say in the userinfo page that I cannot do this, so here I go and I am terribly sorry if this offends anyone. And if it does, the mod can delete this entry immediately.

I created a community a while ago called </font></a></font></strong></a>attemptfailed: for people who have attempted suicide. It is not a pro- suicide community, but it is one for people to tell their story, get advice, find people to relate to, etc. There is much more about it in the userinfo page, but I thought I'd give a little introduction to the community in case anyone out there is interested.

Take care everyone.

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not much goes on in here, does it? I imagine us all sitting around waiting for someone else to start a topic or ask a question or seek support or something.

I joined up because there are not a lot of places for trans-identified people to go to talk about various types of abuse. lots of programs for women recovering from sexual abuse, for instance, but nothing for an ftm who was raped as a female child--that's me; and very little in the way of support for emotional abuse incurred in the name of conservative christianity--that's also me; and although incest is common enough, the sort that is perpetrated by older siblings on younger siblings--me--is not the most talked about.

sometimes I would like to find every transsexual who was brought up in a fundie household and who was also sexually abused at some point. I wonder how many of us there would be.

lately it has become clear to me that I may never see my parents again. it's a long painful story of course, as it is for anyone not traditionally gendered, but the short of it is I'm about to get my PhD and they have decided their fears of what I have become since transitioning are too great for them to be able to bring themselves to come to commencement. there's not much worse you can do to stomp all over a relationship than that--maybe leaving someone at the altar would be as hurtful.

anyway it has me brooding a lot over the past and I'd like to know why some others of us are here and what it is we hoped to find here when we signed up. my personal stats are: mid-forties, ftm, began transition nine years ago, teacher, writer, student, recovering fundamentalist and also recovering from near psychotic episode eight years ago. depression is my middle name, although lately I've been feeling pretty good. for abuse suffered, see above.

hi.

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Greeting everyone,

Just to let you know that the following people are your new Mods for Transabusevic:

xxasimont and dragonskator

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Hi everyone,

I am sending this letter to let you know that I am leaving this community and I need a new mod to take over me as being the Mod. for the group or this community will shut down could you please contact me via my lj so I can place you as the new Mod.

Thank you.
S.J.

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Welcome to the following people:

linkey

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hi, i'm a genderqueer trannyboy living in oakland CA.... one of the many!

so my immediate problem that i want to ask people:
i'm on an online meeting of Survivors of Incest Anonymous. a listserv. and it's good and all, but i'm getting fed up because of the whole "only women are abused" vibe that sometimes happens in the survivor world... this idea that women are victims and men are abusers and it's always your dad and you're always a girl and blah blah blah-dee-blah-blah.

mainly, i'm annoyed because some of the women on the list have been, like, addressing everyone as "gals" or talking about "women's and children's concerns" or whatever, and i'm like... there are other guys on there, people have talked about being guys, could we just... not?

the main straw that broke the camel's back though was today when someone was answering a question about whether it was a list for women only because i guess they were a new member and they had only seen people they assumed were women speak so far... which included me come to think of it, but anyway. and someone replied and very nicely said that there are guys on there and that she loves hearing from the guys and it helps her to know how universal this is or SOMEthing, and how there's also this person named Dani (that would be me) who's "a transgender" and has great recovery or whatever.

i'm like... a transgender? i am not "a" fucking "transgender."

a friend of mine was comparing it to when people talk about "the blacks" or "the gays." "a gay." whatever. it's just annoying and awkward, and also, it's not how i would have described myself in that context.

i probably want to say something in response to it, but also i just want to start an online SIA meeting that's ... whatever. This is my problem: I can't decide whether I want to start a boys' meeting (which would include anyone who self-identified that way in any way) or a meeting for trans folks (of any kind, blah blah self-id ditto). I initially thought boys, but then I had this vision of how equally awkward it could be to talk about my female past in that context and how maybe it would just be letting myself in for the same basic assumptions. and i realized that my image of the people i want to talk to about this stuff, if male, is mostly trannyboys of whatever kind.

so i don't know. I guess partly I'm trying to see if anyone else in the world would be interested in such a list. the one that currently exists (the gender-irrelevant one) is mostly chit-chat and people sharing their experiences and cheering each other on, and also being like "how the fuck do i deal with it?" "well here's how i've dealt with it!" it's pretty good. it's a little high-traffic and gender-normative for me, is all.

also, i'm not a big fan of gender-specific spaces in general. i mean, for myself. so the whole idea confuses me in general. i'm like "that's it! I'm starting my own meeting! Wait... for who?"

there was something else i was going to say about it, and now i don't remember what. that it doesn't have trigger warnings, i think. that being generally a big factor in abuse-related communities online, although not this one, right? i hate trigger warnings :)

i guess i'm leaning toward a trans meeting. the main question: a listserv for trans and other gender-whatevery survivors of any sort of childhood sexual abuse, to talk about our experiences and to recover from them. would anyone want to join it?

but any responses anyone has to any of this are welcome....

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An Update:

Hi everyone, I hope everyone is doing well in their country. Meanwhile so far everything is like a rollercoaster but it should flatten out later.

I know that there hasn't been much to report on recently and I have added some more people to the group who have contacted me, I welcome these people to the group and hope you can write something about yourself to the group so we get to know you too.

That's all from me at the moment and take care

Sarah J.
Moderator of transabusevic