But she's wrong, wrong, wrong. WRONG. We had to borrow money. A whole butt-load of it. We had fundraisers that were a bust. People that said would help and then didn't. A couple of things fell completely through. $12,000. I don't regret it. I would do it again. But if we had no way to borrow the money, we would have been screwed. If we were to ever do it again, I would know better. I would do more myself, instead of waiting. I would beg my ass off and annoy and offend the few remaining friends I have left like some other families do.
International adoption is crazy, ridiculously expensive. It's a very real reason to be hesitant. Considering we're taking a "burden" off their hands(their words, not mine), you would think they would be happy to give us our beautiful babies but they figured us out. They realized we would pay. The more they ask, the more we pay. It's never too much to save a life, we say. And darn it, we can't just say no. But it simply isn't true that the money will just appear. Raising the money is hard, hard, hard. The whole process is hard, but the money aspect makes it miserable.
So I'm not disparaging adoption. But the financial burden is real. Have a plan A, B, and C. Keep posting, asking for ideas, for help, for ways to spread the word. Our babies ARE worth it.
