Friends, Facebook, the "Whatever!" principle....

I am REALLY glad to be the age that I am most days. Even though I feel sometimes that life is going by way too fast, I feel pretty content, and much more confidant than I was, say, 10 years ago.
At 34, I feel like I know who my true-blue friends are and who I can count on. There isn't that need to be everyone's friend, that was once there when I was a young mom, trying to fit in.
I guess its the "whatever" principle.
If I didn't get invited to a party or get-together, whatever.
If someone didn't respond in the hallway at church to my hello, whatever.
If someone was annoyed with my crappy volleyball pass, you guessed it, whatever!

The thing is, I don't have the energy to get upset about stuff. More often than not, I am thinking if my husband has any clean whites, and what's for dinner.
If we are friends, then we're friends. And that's that. We can be really REAL with each other.
And, I do have friends that I wouldn't say that I do regular things with, but they are women I really admire, and I really feel that heart-to-heart connection.
And I try to be genuinely friendly with other women....

If I go out, I generally like a small group. And being that we live in a very social ward, there are lots of open-invitation women get-togethers. That's just not my favorite, and so, I am not being anti-social, I just generally prefer a smaller group, how's that for honest?
It really does not bug me to know that other women got together, and gasp!, I wasn't invited.

And if I have a bone to pick with you, I won't air my greivances out on Facebook, with references like "some people"....
Guess what, those "some people" probably know you are talking about them, so you arent fooling anyone.
I will email you and tell you how I feel, ask what I have done to offend, or say sorry (always with the appropciate emoticons :)

There is no way we can walk through this life without offending someone. I KNOW that I have, and so I try to cut others a break. Friends cut each other a break, not everything is so personal!
We are awesome, amazing, intelligent, and capeable women!
( and truly, this is a personal reminder to me too!)
So, whatever!

Who would you be? What's your perfect outfit?

Or rather, who do you want to look like, or dress like?

Whenever I am in the mall, which isn't all that often, I wish to walk into the Black/White Market and shop. I say it almost EVERY time, that "when I get to my goal weight, I am going to buy a whole outfit there!" Because, I think that their highest size is 14, and honestly, I would be HAPPY to be a 12ish (is that bad, am I setting the bar really low?)

THere are lots of things that I say I would do or wear if I were different, thinner, younger, richer.

Whenever I get the catalog for DownEastBasics (you know them because of their modest tshirts all of us mormon gals wear), my mouth waters over frilly cardigans, skinny belts they layer over those cardigans, skinny jeans, and ballet flats. The girl have adorable bobs, and wear 5 braclets at a time.

I do wear a flower headband sometimes, and wonder if people think I am trying too hard, because I would wear even brighter and bigger ones, if I was younger/thinner/different.

I have always said that my perfect outfit is long dark jeans, a fitted jacket, high heels and fabulous bold jewelry.

Shayne's perfect outfit on me is jeans and white tshirt or he really digs girls in sports jerseys...yeah, the tight ones. (note to self, Shayne is not to return to any Cardinals games)

I know some of you are saying, "well then, why don't you?"

Because I just can't get over that younger/thinner/different complex.

And in my head, the reason that I would even look cute in those outfits is if I were....

yep, younger/thinner/different.

And please, please, please dont tell me how you go the cutest thing at Savers....believe me,

there are no good finds in sizes for me

I like bling, Fossil bags, and converse, too....a crazy, fashion melting pot!

This post really isn't about weight or youth, but what thoughts we have. What's your idea of a perfect outfit, one that you don't feel confident enough to wear?

And WHY aren't you wearing it?

It's the little things....

Today I went to my favorite place to shop, Costco! It's an unnatural obesession, one that Shayne doesnt understand.

I used to be a sample snob, meaning, that I thought people who lingered to try something out were weird. Not any more! Lentil soup, sure! Frank's Red Hot sauce in a dip, let me try that ! I have checked my pride at the door folks!

You really do get great deals on stuff. I won't say everything, because if you are not gonna eat that whole container of grapes (ha!, that would never happen here) its not a good deal. And a lot of time, produce can be found cheaper at Fry's sales.

So, today, I lived it up and found myself putting things in my basket that I normally pass up.

(to the tune of $266...this crap adds up!)

Bacon-we love bacon, but don't eat it that often...but it sure is nice to have on handFresh Mozzarella-this is a major splurge, I love most cheeses, the more expensive, the better

Matrix Hair Balm- because my hair is feeling the winter and needs some moisterizing

Popcorn- if you see these popcorn people at Costco, BUY IT! It is the most fluffy, tasty popcorn ever!

Artichoke Jalapeno Dip- I had never tried this, but I can tell you that as of 5 minutes ago, its yummy

So there you go, I am a simple girl, and a cart full of surface wipes, bar soap, and fancy cheese just makes me happy!

Disney fave's

Our Disneyworld vacation really was an amazing, trip of a lifetime. We worked HARD to have that much fun, four parks in four days, whew!

Our first day was at Disney Hollywood Studios. Hollywood studios is mainly a park with lots of shows, a backlot tour, and interactive activities.

One of our favorites was a class with a real Disney animator that taught us step-by-step how to draw Tigger. I must say, I was mainly drawn to the opportunity to sit down for 20 minutes!

Here are the results, pretty dang good, if I don't say so myself!

Everyone getting ready to start....



Drew

Shayne

Kennedy

Kellie

Jordan

my husband: confidant, urban male

While I was going through boxes in the garage, I came across several CD's of Shayne's previous life of a funky-fresh african american teenager.

I came across-Cool Mo Dee, Tony Toni Tone, Johnny Gill, and Bell Biv Devoe.

I can just image my husband....wearing silk shirts, watching Arsenio and In Living Color, and sporting the fragrance preferred by most urban young males....Drakkar Noir.

Okay, I am not sure about the Drakkar or the silk shirts...but I do know that even today, he wears Sean John's Unforgettable cologne (it smells pretty darn good).

What can I say? He's my white chocolate lover.

Christmas

Christmas dinner at the Bone-InJordan's standard silly pose

Vans and jammies

Because we usually travel during Thanksgiving, we have made it a point to stay home for Christmas. It really is an awesome time to chill out, and eat junk food...but then, I am always up for that!

We went out to eat on Christmas Eve. I know, weird tradition, but the kids love trying out new restaurants, and we tried out the Bone-In Steakhouse on Spanish Trail. YUM! I have to say that the food was pretty dang good, and we will definitely be going back. Nice to have somewhere close to home, out here in sticks!

The kids got Vans from their grandma Farrell, and the obligatory jammies for the Christmas Eve gift. Shayne got me a darling Fossil messenger bag, and sunglasses...I love Fossil anything!

I went back to bed and napped for 3 hours on Christmas day, THATS the best gift!