so perhaps here would be the spot to ask for advice (and i cross posted for even more advice seeking because this bugs the crap out of me) and i appologize if this kind of thing isn't really acceptable here or whatever.
anyhow, i met this awesome girl a couple months ago, and she was flirty, fun, affectionate, and it was awesome to finally meet a girl that appeared to be way into me and not just interested in leading me on (like every single girl i've tried to date in the past) or playing mind games or what have you. so i took the chance, and had a special heart to heart with her that ended with us deciding to be together "officially"
and quite literally the next day, everything changed. she stopped calling me nearly every day, in fact, she didnt call ever when she said she would. when we DID get together, i had reason to suspect it was only because no one else was around for her, and because she needed something (i wont get into details, but those i've asked say my suspicion IS reasonable). so i had a talk with her to see what she had to say about this, and she said she felt terrible that i felt that way, and she was so sorry, even got me flowers. i thought "man, i feel like an asshole" but a week later, same shit is happening.
pretty much, all the amazing affectionate, flirty niceness that we had prior to becoming official disappeared overnight, LITERALLY. and i don't freaking get it. i haven't done anything wrong, and i have tried my best to make it work but it's just depressing me that things changed so rapidly, and out of nowhere. what to do? the obvious answer is to break it off, but that even depresses me because she was literally the first who actually at least seemed to want what i wanted to give her. is there any hope?
anyhow, i met this awesome girl a couple months ago, and she was flirty, fun, affectionate, and it was awesome to finally meet a girl that appeared to be way into me and not just interested in leading me on (like every single girl i've tried to date in the past) or playing mind games or what have you. so i took the chance, and had a special heart to heart with her that ended with us deciding to be together "officially"
and quite literally the next day, everything changed. she stopped calling me nearly every day, in fact, she didnt call ever when she said she would. when we DID get together, i had reason to suspect it was only because no one else was around for her, and because she needed something (i wont get into details, but those i've asked say my suspicion IS reasonable). so i had a talk with her to see what she had to say about this, and she said she felt terrible that i felt that way, and she was so sorry, even got me flowers. i thought "man, i feel like an asshole" but a week later, same shit is happening.
pretty much, all the amazing affectionate, flirty niceness that we had prior to becoming official disappeared overnight, LITERALLY. and i don't freaking get it. i haven't done anything wrong, and i have tried my best to make it work but it's just depressing me that things changed so rapidly, and out of nowhere. what to do? the obvious answer is to break it off, but that even depresses me because she was literally the first who actually at least seemed to want what i wanted to give her. is there any hope?
