HaH! Chili Sauce

Mưa buồn

Hôm nay mưa da diết cả ngày. Trong văn phòng nhìn ra cửa sổ lòng man mác buồn. Nghĩ đến những mối quan hệ khác nhau trong cuộc sống. Từ người thân thương trong gia đình đến những người trong xã hội. Cách người với người cư xử nhau. Tôi cố gắng không bị lôi cuốn vào những controversies dù người trong hay người ngoài. Những gì trong quá khứ cứ để nước mưa trôi đi. Còn những gì trong tương lai xa vời vợi cứ đến đâu hay đến đó. Tôi chỉ muốn tập trung vào hiện tại. Sống sao cho nhẹ nhàng và thoải mái. Ai không ưa mình hoặc thậm chí ghét mình cũng mặc kệ. Chỉ chú tâm đến những người còn quan tâm đến mình là đủ rồi. Đời sống là thế, không cần phải là người tốt hoàn toàn. Không cần biết ai nghĩ sao về mình mà mình tự biết chính mình. Có những mối quan hệ tôi đã gạt bỏ cho dù người thân hay người dưng. Tôi không ngại mình không phải làm người tốt đẹp trong mắt người khác. Tôi cũng rút ra nhiều kinh nghiệm rằng lúc nào cũng phải giữa một khoảng cách trong bất cứ mối quan hệ. Có khi thân thiết quá cũng trở nên kẻ thù. Có khi làm ơn mắc oán. Thôi thì chẳng thà mích lòng trước đặng lòng sau. Thôi vài dòng trải lòng trong một ngày mưa.

Vera Kochanowsky: 101 Haiku

Xuân and I had been reading Vera Kochanowsky’s 101 Haiku for 15 minutes a day. The haikus are short, but they introduction is 35 page long. I love how Kochanowsky approaches haiku. For example, she writes:

In our modern life we are rarely encouraged to observe little things. Although we may look at our surroundings (when our eyes are not glued to our cell phones), we often don’t see what is really there. We don’t take the time to make those connections that fill our world, and which can bring us a clearer understanding of ourselves and our relationship to all that exists, one little piece at a time. Haiku can be a form of meditation, a focus on a particular object or experience that has elicited a feeling or even just some kind of response in us, a spark of recognition, a connection to something we have known or experienced before. Each of these moments of understanding becomes a tiny piece of beauty in the mosaic of our lives.

Kochanowsky continues:

The idea of “less is more” is nothing new. In art and music there are plenty of examples. The human mind enjoys and even revels in these intentional gaps. A good art teacher will tell you that when you draw an object or a person you can leave certain things out. Some lines can and should be lighter, and some can be left out altogether. Dark areas enhance the lighter spaces, and vice versa. Knowing what to minimize or leave out is where the artist shows his or her mastery. The viewer’s mind must fill in these gaps. It regularly does so with surprisingly little effort.

In music the blank or light space is silence. The musician’s canvas is time. Our minds always compare the present moment to what has just been heard. The impact of what will come is shaped by what is played or not played in this moment. One can get used to loud sounds if the ear is bombarded with them continually. But if there is a moment of silence just before it, a loud cymbal crash will have a more startling impact. The best musicians know how to use silence, the spaces between notes, to move their listeners.

After the long introduction, the concise haikus were a breeze to read through. They are beautiful. Here are a few of my personal favorites:

Your voice, so soothing,
like warm butter over grits.
Let me not forget.

Someone spilled paint
all over the fall mountains—
each leaf, a masterpiece.

Cold night in the woods,
sparks fly up from the campfire
to mingle with stars.

Xuân is getting better at recognizing the words, but has yet to understand the meanings behind the poems. We’ll reread the haikus slower the second time around.

HaH! Chili Sauce: Limited Bourbon Edition

We made the first batch of our HaH! Chili sauce for this season. As a bourbon lover, I had to infuse some bourbon into our sauce. Allow me to introduce the Limited Bourdon Edition.

By infusing the award-winning New Riff (Bottled In Bond) bourbon into our original HaH! Chili sauce, we elevate the art of hot sauce to the next level. Handcrafted with fresh ingredients (peppers, garlic, shallot, vinegar, and salt) and combined with the spirit of Kentucky, our bourbon chili sauce is not only Hot as Hell, but also bursting with flavors including sweet vanilla, butterscotch, clove, cinnamon, and mint. Check out the introduction video.

Invest in Winter Wheels

In the past few years, driving our Toyota Sienna 2018 SE to Vermont in the winter was nerve-wrecking. Since we had purchased a 2026 Toyota Sienna Highland with all wheel drives, we decided to invest in winter wheels and tires as well. We bought 4 Velox Wheels, model ZEN for $190 each.

Since we made the purchase through Costco, we saved $200 on 4 wheels. The total for the wheels came out to be around $600. We still need to buy 4 winter tires, most likely through Costco as well so they can install for us. We’re not sure what to get yet. We’ll wait until we get a bit closer to the winter.

I can’t wait to get back to Stowe to ride on powdery snow.

Letter to My Sons #53

Dear sons,

Sibling rivalry is inevitable, but the escalated incident this week was deeply concerning and worrying. It broke my heart to see you guys constantly bickering at each other. As parents, we had to step in to make peace. Our actions might seem unfair, but we made our judgement based on what we were witnessing.

You can call me biased, but you cannot accused your mother being biased. She loves you unconditionally and individually. You need to recognize and appreciate everything that she has done for each one of you. She makes sacrifices for each one of you. Seeing what she is going through for you guys makes me appreciate and respect her more each day. Only a mother has that unconditional love for her children.

In your view, I might not be a good father, but you can’t say that she’s not a good mother. In fact, she is a great mother and you guys are lucky to have her as one of your parents. Seeing you guys doing well is all that she needs to make her happy. She doesn’t require you to do anything for her. Just taking good care of yourself and each other is good enough for her.

She supports you in any way she can. She’s there for you whenever you need her. She might not give you what you want, but she always give you what you need. She will always be there for you. Let her know that you appreciate her. Let her know that you love her.

No one loves you like your mother. Believe me, I know. I hope you understand what I want to tell you.

Love,
Dad

Cruising Again

It feels so good to carve on a cruising board. Since Mason’s parking lots have been filled up during the weekdays, I need to look for an alternative space—the bigger the better. So far, I couldn’t find any. I am too afraid of getting hit on the streets.

GW Law Faces Layoffs

GW Law hits with layoffs to combat the school’s financial challenges even with the cost of attendance of $115,000 a year for each JD student. That’s crazy!

In retrospect, when I applied for GW School of Business, the first thing I learned was that it was one of the most expensive schools in the world. I thought I would never get laid off. Today its Global MBA program costs $134,000 a year. Damn!

For posterity, here are some projects I worked on for GW School of Business from January 2008 – October 2011.

Library Checking Back In Issue

I am getting tired of paying for books I had returned to the libraries. The staff didn’t check them back in, but I was held accountable. A few times, I had to check the books on the shelves again. They were re-shelved without checking back in. Unfortunately, I couldn’t do anything when the books weren’t found. I didn’t mind paying for a book or two once in a while, but the errors kept repeating in more frequents. I am not sure how to prevent the issue. I brought the issue to the staff, but they just shrugged it off. From now on, I am going to take a photo of all the books before returning them as evidence. Even then, I am not sure if they would believe me if I told them I had returned them. Better yet, I’ll request the staff to check them back in instead of dropping them in the return box.